Blue prints

I was talking to a friend about this just the other day, it was about another friend. Some deep thoughts on the topic.

My friend was broken hearted. Her boyfriend cheated on her. she's about 22 years of age.

Of course, when asked, I give advice with caution but straight to the point. Caution, I did not direct her to do anything that will require her to choose a side, make a decision, or go do something where she feels half assed. Straight to the point, I give her the facts, at her young age she doesn't need to be as devastated as she is now. She needs to get up and move on. She kept on saying the opposite of what I was saying. That how can she live life and move on if the one she loved betrayed her trust... children... pft. I told her that life will go on, he is just a dot, a passer by, someone who will teach her lessons in life, and all that. At some point of the conversation I told her she was a stereotype. She cried because of that. Dumbfounded as I am because of that, I asked her why. She said I was judging her too soon... children... pft.

One thing stuck to me, she said "Alam mo RD, you don't know me. Wala kang karapatan para sabihan ako ng mga kung ano ano. Hindi mo alam ang sitwasyon ko, ang mga nangyari sa buhay ko."

What will your reaction be when faced with this kind of person?

Who cries after being called a stereotype, is the first. Come on. It was a conversation. pft. Maybe that's why her boyfriend got tired of her and left her :D Sorry for being mean, but I drive a strong point. After much thought on the reply, as I didn't want to say anything that will make her cry again. I told her " I don't need to know anything about the specifics of your life, about what he told you, what emotion you are feeling right now. Beneath all the twists, there is a blue print of that situation. Someone from another point in time, felt that same emotion, went through the same situation and they got through it. "

True, stories though told differently, follow a blue print. A schematics that needs only a careful eye to see and a strong heart to follow. No matter how complicated a problem might seem, there is a systematic way to go through it and prevail over it.

What is thrown to you only obscures your vision. If you choose to embed those into your being, bath yourself with it, it's your choice. You need not feel special in a negative way, that everything in your life goes wrong, you are always on the bad side of the stick, always unlucky and always miserable.

Hard thing to do, but when done, can do wonders.