Humble and Arrogant people

I just did something inappropriate, out of anger and angst for someone.



How long has it been since I've lost my temper? Very long, maybe it was about 9/10 months or so. The last incident was with 5 uniformed policemen trying to abuse their authority. I gave them a mouthful, I was not afraid of them since I knew my rights. I'm usually a patient and forgiving person, I rarely go into an outburst. The usual things that I get pissed about are:


1. Arrogant people
2. ...


I can't think of something else. Other people say that when you meet a person like that, you say a prayer for them and just let them be. I do that, this big idiot just pushed a button.



Been reading a book related to this - "After you - Can humble people prevail" by Roger Fritz. Has a lot of thoughts on how disadvantaged Arrogant people are compared to humble people. Thoughts inside the book are:

Why Arrogance is Vulnerable: How to Test Your Selfishness Quotient (SQ)
Loyalty Works Both Ways: The Signals of Contempt
The Upside of Defeat: The Real Sources of Power
When Pride Goes Too Far: Who Follows “Me First” People?
How to Identify Pretenders: Must Winners Be Overbearing?
Quiet Dignity: How to Detect False Modesty
Random Acts of Kindness: Can You Get Ahead When You Step Aside?
Defining Moments: When Credit is Shared
No Need to Get Even: How Humble People Make a Difference

Why Egotists are Lonely: How Vanity Thrives

An ineresting enough read for the concerned. A lot of people forget how important humility is. I guess it depends on the person if he can take the conversations behind his back, we all know how people talk about you behind your back.

What do you do with arrogant people? how do you deal with them?

People around you help define who you are

From the April 10, 2009. Postcards, from the pinnacles of power by Fortune editor at large Patricia Sellers, "What makes a leader? Empathy"

"Empathy. It’s a not a word that usually comes up first and foremost when people talk about leadership.
But it should.
I’ve been thinking a lot about empathy–the capacity to see things as others do. Consider Detroit’s myopic auto executives, Wall Street’s clueless CEOs and the many arrogant titans of industry who have stirred populist wrath. Many have fallen because they’ve failed to understand how their actions–their planes, their perks, their out-sized bonuses–play in the public sphere.
Empathy is critical lately, but lack of it has long been a CEO career killer and will be forever more. Through two decades of reporting, I’ve seen it dozens of times. One of the most memorable: Doug Ivester, the onetime accountant who headed Coca-Cola (KO) a decade ago and knew the numbers cold, never understood the power of perception. A tipping point before his forced exit was a 1999 crisis in Belgium, when parents claimed that Coke products had sickened their children. Ivester dismissed the hullabaloo, leaning on lab tests that indicated no health hazard at all. The data, you see, didn’t matter as much as consumer perception. Ivester lacked the ability to see the problem through Belgian eyes and paid for his errors with his career."



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Relating to the people around him is one of the most important things that a man living in a world where interacting with other people makes or breaks him in all aspects. Ignoring this simple fact will give leave you in tears. Literally. You may get a few paces ahead of people, but the glory that you will get by treating people like trash or the same will be short. A taste in your lips.