http://newsinfo.inquirer.net/breakingnews/metro/view/20090327-196493/Duty-Free-customer-not-off-the-hook
Duty Free customer not off the hook
MANILA, Philippines—The employees union of Duty Free Philippines (DFP) in Parañaque City Wednesday threw its support behind a cashier who was humiliated by a customer who berated him for asking for identification in a credit card transaction.
“Even if he were just a casual employee, we will support him all the way if he files a complaint,” DFP employees union president Dennis Mallari told the Philippine Daily Inquirer, referring to employee Marvin Fernandez.
On March 13, Fernandez and store manager Susan Gonzales were berated by Boyet Fajardo, a fashion designer, at DFP Fiesta Mall.
Footage from the DFP’s closed-circuit camera was aired on the video-hosting website YouTube, along with an online petition calling for a boycott of Fajardo’s clothing stores.
Fajardo has since apologized to Fernandez, but a DFP lawyer told a radio station Wednesday their legal division was investigating to see if Fajardo could be sued.
Mallari also filed a complaint in the Commission on Human Rights.
The link of the online petition: http://www.petitionspot.com/petitions/boycottboyetfajardo/signatures/pg/13/
A boycott will happen through the right process with or without this online petition. This is another classic case of people jumping into the bandwagon just so they can say something. This rant includes those of the online community who do not realize the sharpness of their rotten words.
Yes, he was wrong. Yes he deserves punishment. But it's not for you to decide whether action will be taken against him, and the specific action.
Yes, this is public sympathy. Yes, we are all concerned citizens. But this has spun way out of control, crossing the boundaries of sympathizing to just ignorant and unfavorable persecution.
Are we not subject to those kinds of moments? Do we not commit mistakes when boxed in? stressed out? Are we perfect creatures compared to him? Why are you so quick with stones, when you don't even know of your mistakes.
For all we know, your personal actions also merit the same treatment. It was just of pure luck that your actions weren't caught by the public eye.
Mga chismoso, nagmamagaling, nagmamalinis, akala mo naman perpekto. Masyado kayong maraming alam, pag manlalait kayo ng ibang tao.
Gossip monkey, know-it-all, you think your perfect. You know and say too many things when another person in at fault.
Now how does that feel? I hope I translated the message well.
Friday 27 March 2009
Wednesday 18 March 2009
Being a light for others
We are here for another reason, to shed light to other people who are in the dark.
When your mind is in chaos, you can't really fit everything together right? It's always helpfup to get an intelligent opinion from people around you. Like a chess player out of his wits, figuring our what his opponents next move will be, sometimes missing the larger scheme that onlookers don't miss.
You play two sides of the coin. You either give light, or recieve light :)
When your mind is in chaos, you can't really fit everything together right? It's always helpfup to get an intelligent opinion from people around you. Like a chess player out of his wits, figuring our what his opponents next move will be, sometimes missing the larger scheme that onlookers don't miss.
You play two sides of the coin. You either give light, or recieve light :)
Monday 9 March 2009
Be as considerate as possible
I have met a lot of persons who have made a profession from bringing other people down. Capitalizing on other peoples mistake to somewhat project a bigger image of being talented. Mouthing off at the even the slightest mishaps trying to box away the persons ego, limiting growth and improvement. Getting off at people with an un-reciprocated effort of proving their own intelligence by making other people look stupid. Mentioning a mile long list of associations, knowledge and seemingly novel prize winning action in conversations. And when driven into a corner by the very same person they tried to put down, use the "I'm better than you, so mind your own business " card in an effort to try to save the non-existing respect other people have for him/her. In your own little world, baby.
If you, by any chance, take this regression, you should ask yourself how far will this take you? A year or two? Eventually you'll be in a tragedy story, all of your past mistakes catching up on you. People you've hurt, opportunities you've thrown away, the big black hole of your ignorance sucking you right back in, and the whole lot of things you did. And surprisingly, it started with a flick of a switch from one of the persons that was a target of your attitude.
People do not succeed, or even survive at the least, when they put down other people. Taking a lesson from Robert Greene, one of the 48 laws of power, he wrote:
"Know Who You’re Dealing with – Do Not Offend the Wrong Person. There are many different kinds of people in the world, and you can never assume that everyone will react to your strategies in the same way. Deceive or outmaneuver some people and they will spend the rest of their lives seeking revenge. They are wolves in lambs’ clothing. Choose your victims and opponents carefully, then – never offend or deceive the wrong person."
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One person who was close to me, did exactly what I described above. He was older than me, about three years or so. He was boastful in everything, he accomplished great feats on his own. Totally revamped the whole IT department of the company he was working for before, on his own. Was developing complex applications where teams of 3 would be required, on his own. He would mention about experiences that would awe people around him. Exactly the same as the above.
Things got fishy, cause I graduated from college, and was already engaged in the profession. My eyes opened, exposed to a lot of things, worked with a lot of great minded people. It was just a matter of time before I discovered inconsistencies in his stories. I developed angst towards him, he was getting on my nerves. But I didn't want to slam dunk facts on his face, of course not. After servings and servings of crap, eventually the line broke.
"I earn 3x that what you earn, exactly xx, what do you do? 3x more work than mine?" he told me. "What do you earn? Just xx? haha" He was pretty vocal with his salary, kind of strange as it was a golden rule where I was trained not to tell people about our salary. From that moment, I told another person who was sharing the same sentiments as mine, I will get this guy back. Seriously, he was pushing things too far, he was frolicking ignorantly on his own demise.
Being close to him, I still wanted to change him, I am not that cruel a guy.
I got an opportunity when he wanted our help for a project that he was given, freelance. This will be perfect, the truth will surface at last. So I said yes with the sole purpose of bringing him down. Every step he took, I questioned. We debated. We screamed at each other. We failed to deliver deadlines, about two month long extensions for work that can be done by one person in three days, since he was the main contributor (of course he was, he was better that us). I told him not to commit when he knew he won't be able to deliver, still he persisted. I knew he wasn't capable of completing the project. There were three of us involved in the project, to teach him a lesson, me and the other guy left him to finish things alone. So if he fails he will realize what I was telling him. What more painful lesson than a client stating disappointment at the lack of your professionalism and credibility.
Still he persisted. Excuses after excuses.
One day, we had one of our little drinking sessions. I was feeling confrontational with the help of alcohol, yeah! This is the perfect time to say everything in his face. So when everyone was sleeping, we were talking about his ego. I told him straight what I was feeling, what I thought of him. To my credit, I waited until we were all alone, and I was totally honest with him. That I was intending to bring him down when I joined him, destroy him. But in the end I just wanted him to realize the bloated size of his ego.
At the end, it cost us our closeness. We barely communicate with him. We used to hang out almost everyday. Now when we plan things, we don't invite him, simply because he isn't top of mind.
He lost true friends.
Just one of the things that can happen to people who practice putting down people.
*Now I have another person who exercises the same. I do hope I do something to make him realize things. But this will be difficult, as it is more complicated than my situation with my friend.
If you, by any chance, take this regression, you should ask yourself how far will this take you? A year or two? Eventually you'll be in a tragedy story, all of your past mistakes catching up on you. People you've hurt, opportunities you've thrown away, the big black hole of your ignorance sucking you right back in, and the whole lot of things you did. And surprisingly, it started with a flick of a switch from one of the persons that was a target of your attitude.
People do not succeed, or even survive at the least, when they put down other people. Taking a lesson from Robert Greene, one of the 48 laws of power, he wrote:
"Know Who You’re Dealing with – Do Not Offend the Wrong Person. There are many different kinds of people in the world, and you can never assume that everyone will react to your strategies in the same way. Deceive or outmaneuver some people and they will spend the rest of their lives seeking revenge. They are wolves in lambs’ clothing. Choose your victims and opponents carefully, then – never offend or deceive the wrong person."
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One person who was close to me, did exactly what I described above. He was older than me, about three years or so. He was boastful in everything, he accomplished great feats on his own. Totally revamped the whole IT department of the company he was working for before, on his own. Was developing complex applications where teams of 3 would be required, on his own. He would mention about experiences that would awe people around him. Exactly the same as the above.
Things got fishy, cause I graduated from college, and was already engaged in the profession. My eyes opened, exposed to a lot of things, worked with a lot of great minded people. It was just a matter of time before I discovered inconsistencies in his stories. I developed angst towards him, he was getting on my nerves. But I didn't want to slam dunk facts on his face, of course not. After servings and servings of crap, eventually the line broke.
"I earn 3x that what you earn, exactly xx, what do you do? 3x more work than mine?" he told me. "What do you earn? Just xx? haha" He was pretty vocal with his salary, kind of strange as it was a golden rule where I was trained not to tell people about our salary. From that moment, I told another person who was sharing the same sentiments as mine, I will get this guy back. Seriously, he was pushing things too far, he was frolicking ignorantly on his own demise.
Being close to him, I still wanted to change him, I am not that cruel a guy.
I got an opportunity when he wanted our help for a project that he was given, freelance. This will be perfect, the truth will surface at last. So I said yes with the sole purpose of bringing him down. Every step he took, I questioned. We debated. We screamed at each other. We failed to deliver deadlines, about two month long extensions for work that can be done by one person in three days, since he was the main contributor (of course he was, he was better that us). I told him not to commit when he knew he won't be able to deliver, still he persisted. I knew he wasn't capable of completing the project. There were three of us involved in the project, to teach him a lesson, me and the other guy left him to finish things alone. So if he fails he will realize what I was telling him. What more painful lesson than a client stating disappointment at the lack of your professionalism and credibility.
Still he persisted. Excuses after excuses.
One day, we had one of our little drinking sessions. I was feeling confrontational with the help of alcohol, yeah! This is the perfect time to say everything in his face. So when everyone was sleeping, we were talking about his ego. I told him straight what I was feeling, what I thought of him. To my credit, I waited until we were all alone, and I was totally honest with him. That I was intending to bring him down when I joined him, destroy him. But in the end I just wanted him to realize the bloated size of his ego.
At the end, it cost us our closeness. We barely communicate with him. We used to hang out almost everyday. Now when we plan things, we don't invite him, simply because he isn't top of mind.
He lost true friends.
Just one of the things that can happen to people who practice putting down people.
*Now I have another person who exercises the same. I do hope I do something to make him realize things. But this will be difficult, as it is more complicated than my situation with my friend.
Sunday 8 March 2009
Covering your ass
If things don't move the way you want them to, you turn into a relentless machine pointing fingers at everyone and everything around you:
The client hasn't replied to my email yet, so I'm left hanging…
My superior didn't give me enough information for me to finish the report…
What he wants is impossible, so let him deal with it, I'll just do what I was told to do…
They still haven't called me up, I don't want to impose anything…
I'm not making the first move, he should be the one to do it. Isn't that the way things should be…
This and that… this and that… this and that… You see a pattern don't you?
Staying put is staying putNo matter how much you know about how unfair the world is, how much you despise the garbage that's thrown to you, or how worthwhile you are compared to the mindless and idiotic inhabitants of the space around you, it will always be the same everyday of your life if you don't do anything to change it.
Have you tried other means of communication?
He might just be waiting for you to come up with things on your own.
So why not thing of something that is possible?
Initiative is needed
If it needs to be done, you don't have to wait for someone else to take ownership
Just deliver the goods
It traces back to you, everything you don't do and do, it traces back to you. It's not "I've done everything I can" until you've exhausted all possibilities. Expecting different results from the same thing over and over again, without the mind and heart to even look beyond what presently hinders progress is just short of being insane. If your were tasked to do something, you wouldn't just do it, you would make sure that it will be done. What comes out your mouth if that something doesn't work out are excuses.
It would be much better if you did everything in your power to do something and fail. You'd cover your ass better from guilt better.
The client hasn't replied to my email yet, so I'm left hanging…
My superior didn't give me enough information for me to finish the report…
What he wants is impossible, so let him deal with it, I'll just do what I was told to do…
They still haven't called me up, I don't want to impose anything…
I'm not making the first move, he should be the one to do it. Isn't that the way things should be…
This and that… this and that… this and that… You see a pattern don't you?
Staying put is staying putNo matter how much you know about how unfair the world is, how much you despise the garbage that's thrown to you, or how worthwhile you are compared to the mindless and idiotic inhabitants of the space around you, it will always be the same everyday of your life if you don't do anything to change it.
Have you tried other means of communication?
He might just be waiting for you to come up with things on your own.
So why not thing of something that is possible?
Initiative is needed
If it needs to be done, you don't have to wait for someone else to take ownership
Just deliver the goods
It traces back to you, everything you don't do and do, it traces back to you. It's not "I've done everything I can" until you've exhausted all possibilities. Expecting different results from the same thing over and over again, without the mind and heart to even look beyond what presently hinders progress is just short of being insane. If your were tasked to do something, you wouldn't just do it, you would make sure that it will be done. What comes out your mouth if that something doesn't work out are excuses.
It would be much better if you did everything in your power to do something and fail. You'd cover your ass better from guilt better.
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